Growing Up in Chaos: How Hoarding & Addiction Shape a Child — And Why My Work Matters

When people hear the word hoarding, they imagine piles of stuff. What they don’t imagine is the child living underneath it all — the fear, the instability, the shame, the survival mode that becomes a personality.

I know this because I was that child.

I grew up in a home where hoarding and drug addiction lived side by side. The house wasn’t just cluttered — it was unstable. Unsafe. Overwhelming. We experienced housing instability, rodent and bug infestations, and the constant fear that someone would find out and take us away… or worse, that no one would care enough to step in.

And while people like to say “kids are resilient,” the truth is:
Kids adapt. They don’t thrive.

Those years shaped me in ways I’m still unlearning — and in powerful ways that helped me build WithMother LLC today.

The Hidden Weight Children Carry in Hoarded Homes

Children growing up in hoarding and addiction face struggles most adults never think about:

1. Emotional Overload at an Early Age

In chaotic homes, kids become responsible for their own emotions — and often their parents’.
You learn to monitor moods, tiptoe around tension, and try to “fix” things you never created.

2. Chronic Stress Becomes a Lifestyle

Hoarding isn’t just a messy house — it’s an environment where your nervous system never gets a break.
You’re constantly scanning for danger:

• Will someone come over and judge us?

• Will the lights get shut off?

• Will we have to move again?

• Is that scratching in the walls going to get worse?

That level of stress shapes the brain.

3. Physical Safety Is Never Guaranteed

Rodents. Roaches. Mold. Piles of items that could collapse.
Kids growing up like this learn early that no one is coming to save them.

4. Shame Starts Early

You avoid inviting friends.
You lie to teachers.
You get quiet when people ask questions you can’t answer.

Shame becomes a shadow that follows you into adulthood.

How It Affects Us as Adults

Children raised in hoarded, addicted homes often develop:

• Anxiety

• Hyper-independence

• People-pleasing

• Difficulty setting boundaries

• Constant fear of instability

• Deep attachment wounds

• A lifelong urge to “save” or “fix” things

But we also gain:

• Strength

• Compassion

• Survival skills

• An unmatched work ethic

• And a desire to create safety anywhere we can

Those gifts became the foundation of my business.

Why I Do This Work Today

WithMother LLC isn’t just a cleaning company.
It’s not just organizing.
It’s not just load-outs or haul-aways.

It is healing work.
It is prevention work.
It is cycle-breaking work.

When I walk into a hoarded home, I’m not judging.
I’m remembering.
I see the child hiding in the mess, the one who didn’t create this but had to live in it anyway.

I built WithMother to provide:

• Safety

• Cleanliness

• Dignity

• Support

• Community

• And real services for families who need more than a broom and a mop

And I built it because children like me — children like I once was — deserve better.

Why This Story Matters for My Clients

If you’ve ever struggled with hoarding, addiction, mental health, or instability, you’re not alone — and you’re not broken.

And if you’re raising children while dealing with any of these challenges, support is not only allowed, it’s necessary.

WithMother LLC is here to help you rebuild a healthier home without judgment or shame.

Because I’ve lived the consequences.
And I’ve lived the healing.

Closing Message

I share this not for sympathy, but so you understand the why behind my work.
Every clean, every haul-away, every decluttering session, every plan — it’s about creating the safe, stable homes I didn’t get to grow up in.

If this resonates with someone you know, share it.
If you’re ready for help, reach out.
A clean home won’t fix everything — but it can change the direction of a child’s life.

– WithMother Team 💚

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Growing Up in Chaos: How Hoarding & Addiction Harm Children — And Why This Work Matters

Most people think hoarding is just “too much stuff.” But research shows that a hoarded home can have the same psychological impact on a child as living through a natural disaster. And when you add addiction, poverty, infestations, and constant instability, the effects multiply.

I know this because I lived it.

I was the child navigating stacked rooms, drug use, rodents, roaches, and housing instability. My childhood is the root of why I created WithMother LLC — because the consequences of these environments last for decades unless the cycle is broken.

Hoarding + Addiction = A High-Risk Childhood

1. Childhood trauma shapes the brain

According to the CDC-Kaiser ACEs Study, children exposed to household mental illness, substance use, or neglect are at significantly higher risk of:

• Depression

• Anxiety

• PTSD

• Chronic illness

• Unstable adult relationships

• Poverty in adulthood

A child with 4 or more ACEs has a 12x higher risk of suicide attempts and a 2–3x higher risk of substance abuse later in life.

Children in hoarded homes are almost always experiencing 4+ ACEs at once.

2. Hoarding households increase physical health risks

Studies from Boston University and the National Center for Hoarding Disorder show that hoarded homes:

• Are 3x more likely to have rodent and insect infestations

• Show higher rates of respiratory illnesses due to dust, mold, and poor ventilation

• Have a heightened fire risk, making children statistically less safe at home

Children living with infestation experience stress responses equal to being in unsafe neighborhoods.

I grew up with all of this — rodents, roaches, unsafe piles, and rooms you couldn’t walk through.

3. Instability disrupts normal development

The American Academy of Pediatrics reports that housing instability increases:

• Behavioral issues by 20%

• Developmental delays by 40%

• Emotional difficulties by up to 50%

When you never know where you’ll sleep next, your brain stays in survival mode. I lived like that for years.

4. Addiction in the home rewires a child’s stress system

Children of parents with drug addiction are:

• 2–4x more likely to develop addiction themselves

• More likely to experience trauma responses even in adulthood

• At higher risk for depression and hypervigilance

I learned to read people’s moods like weather patterns — a survival skill that came from chaos, not choice.

The Invisible Burden of Children in Hoarded Homes

Children like I once was:

• hide their home from friends

• carry shame they don’t have words for

• take on adult responsibilities too young

• live in fear of judgment or being removed

• feel unsafe in the one place that should be safe

When hoarding and addiction merge, the child is often forgotten in the mess.

How My Childhood Became the Heart of WithMother LLC

I built WithMother LLC because of my childhood — not in spite of it.

Every time I step into a hoarded home, I see the unseen child who is living in the mess:

• The child who is hungry but too embarrassed to ask for help

• The child who uses humor as a shield

• The child who dreams of a clean home but can’t say it out loud

• The child afraid of losing everything if someone finds out

I see myself.

That is why I focus on:

• judgment-free cleaning

• trauma-aware service

• hoarder-friendly care

• partnerships with therapists, social workers, and doctors

Cleaning is the surface.
Healing the story behind the home is the real work.

Why This Matters for Families Today

If you’re raising children while dealing with hoarding struggles, addiction recovery, mental health challenges, or instability:

You deserve support — not shame.
Your children deserve safety, stability, and care.

And WithMother LLC is here to help you start that journey.

Closing Message

I share this story because someone needs to hear:
Your past doesn’t disqualify you from building a better home.
Your childhood doesn’t define your future.
And breaking the cycle is possible — I’m living proof.

– WithMother Team 💚

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I Was That Child. And This Is Why Hoarding & Addiction Hit Me So Deeply.

People see a hoarded house and think:
“Why can’t they just clean it up?”

But what they don’t see is the little girl hiding inside that house —
the one holding her breath when the lights flicker,
listening to rodents scratching in the walls,
tiptoeing over trash bags,
and praying nobody knocks on the door.

I was that child.

I grew up with addiction in the home.
I grew up with hoarding.
I grew up with instability so deep it felt like the ground was always cracking beneath me.

We moved constantly.
Couches. Floors. People’s basements.
Sometimes houses with no heat.
Sometimes houses filled with things no child should have to sleep next to.

We had roaches.
We had rats.
We had shame so heavy, it felt like another piece of furniture sitting on top of me.

Most kids fear monsters under the bed.
My monsters were alive.
They ran across the floor.

What Hoarding Does to a Child

You learn not to invite friends over.
You learn to stay ready — because anything can happen.
You learn to carry adult pain with a child’s heart.

Hoarding creates:

• chaos

• fear

• embarrassment

• isolation

• confusion

• deep emotional bruising

Add addiction to that, and suddenly the child becomes the parent without ever meaning to.

What I Carry Into Adulthood

People tell me, “You’re so strong.”
But strength wasn’t a choice for me.
It was survival.

I grew up always scanning the room.
Always preparing for the worst.
Always cleaning up other people’s messes — literally and emotionally.

Sometimes people ask why I started WithMother LLC.
Why I help hoarders.
Why I don’t judge the mess.

Because I lived in it.
Because I was shaped by it.
Because somewhere in every hoarded home, I see a reflection of the little girl I used to be.

I know how it feels to want a clean home and have no idea where to begin.
I know what it’s like to feel forgotten in a pile of things you didn’t create.
I know what it’s like to grow up believing chaos is normal.

Why This Work Is Sacred to Me

When I walk into a home overflowing with stuff, I don’t think:

“Wow, this is a mess.”

I think:

“Who protected the child in this home?”
“Who protected the child they used to be?”
“Who is protecting them now?”

WithMother LLC is my answer to my younger self.

No child should grow up feeling unsafe in their own home.
No adult should be ashamed to ask for help.
No family should battle their demons alone.

I clean because I understand.
I organize because I remember.
I help because somebody helped me survive.

And now I help others rebuild.

Breaking the Cycle

If you grew up like I did…
If you’re raising kids in chaos and want better for them…
If you’re trying to heal from trauma while holding a household together…

You deserve compassion.
You deserve stability.
You deserve support without judgment.

You deserve a clean slate — literally and emotionally.

And that’s why I’m here.

– WithMother Team 💚

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Growing Up in Chaos: The Hidden Impact of Hoarding & Addiction on Children — And Why I Built WithMother LLC

Most people think hoarding is just “too much stuff.”
They see clutter.
They see piles.
They see the surface.

What they don’t see is the child living underneath all of it.

The child who’s trying to grow up in a home filled with addiction, instability, rodents, roaches, and rooms you have to climb over just to get to the door.

I know this because I was that child.

I grew up in homes where there was no such thing as safety.
No such thing as stability.
No such thing as peace.

Housing instability didn’t happen once — it was a lifestyle.
Infestations weren’t shocking — they were expected.
Chaos wasn’t the exception — it was the environment.

And when you mix hoarding with addiction, it doesn’t just affect the house — it rewires a child’s brain.

What the Research Shows (And What I Experienced)

Children living in hoarded or addicted homes experience trauma equal to major crises.

The CDC-Kaiser ACEs Study found that kids exposed to addiction, neglect, or chronic stress have a:

• 12x higher risk of suicide attempts

• 2–3x higher risk of substance abuse as adults

• Higher rates of PTSD than some military veterans

Children in hoarded homes almost always exceed 4–6 ACEs, the danger zone for lifelong trauma.

Hoarding environments are physically unsafe for children.

Research from the National Center for Hoarding Disorder shows hoarded homes are:

• 3x more likely to have rodents and roaches

• High-risk for fires and respiratory illness

• Often structurally unsafe due to blocked exits and unstable piles

I didn’t need studies to tell me this — I lived with rodents scratching in the walls and roaches crawling across the floor.

Housing instability harms development.

The American Academy of Pediatrics reports that kids who move frequently or live in unstable homes have:

• 40% higher risk of developmental delays

• 50% higher risk of emotional problems

• Higher school absenteeism and lower academic performance

When you’re packing a trash bag to leave again, you’re not thinking about homework.

What It Really Feels Like for a Child

Here’s the part research doesn’t always capture:

Children in hoarded and addicted homes learn to become adults too early.

You learn to:

• hide your home

• lie to teachers

• read moods like survival maps

• pretend everything is normal

• clean up messes that were never yours

• carry shame heavier than the piles around you

People talk about “childhood innocence,” but some of us never got one.

And those experiences don’t disappear when you turn 18.
They follow you.
They shape your relationships, your decisions, your sense of safety.

They shaped me so deeply that I built an entire company around breaking that cycle.

Why WithMother LLC Exists

Every time I walk into a hoarded home, I don’t see “a mess.”
I see:

• the child who lives there now

• the child the adult used to be

• the pain behind the piles

• the story beneath the clutter

I see myself.

And that is why WithMother LLC is not “just a cleaning business.”

It is:

• Trauma-informed support

• Judgment-free cleaning

• Hoarder-safe organizing

• Emotional awareness

• A bridge to mental health resources

• A chance for families to rebuild

• A safe start for people who don’t know where to begin

I clean because I remember.
I help because I survived.
I serve because someone like me needed this decades ago.

Breaking the Cycle — For the Next Child

If you grew up like I did…
If you're raising kids while fighting your own battles…
If you’re trying to heal and keep a home together at the same time…

You deserve support, safety, stability, and compassion.

And your children deserve a childhood that is not defined by chaos.

WithMother LLC was built to help create that.

CALL TO ACTION — Start Your Journey with WithMother LLC

If this story speaks to you, here’s how you can take the next step:

🌿 Book a Clean

Whether you need a fresh start, deep clean, haul-away, or hoarder-safe service — we’re here.
Explore your options on our website: WmotherLLC.com

🌟 Find Out How to Win a FREE Clean

I offer multiple giveaways, trial cleans, raffles, and community challenges — because everyone deserves a chance at a clean start.
Visit the website to see all the current opportunities.

💼 Apply to Work with Us (1099 Contractor)

If you want flexible income, meaningful work, and to help families heal while cleaning — apply to join the WithMother team.
We are always looking for heart-centered cleaners, trainers, and assistants.

👉 Visit the website and click “Join Our Team,” “Book a Clean,” or “Free Clean Opportunities” to get started.
Website: WmotherLLC.com

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Growing Up in Chaos: The Hidden Impact of Hoarding & Addiction on Children — And Why I Built WithMother LLC

Most people think hoarding is just “too much stuff.”
They see clutter.
They see piles.
They see the surface.

What they don’t see is the child living underneath it all.

The child trying to grow up in a home filled with addiction, instability, rodents, roaches, and paths carved through endless piles just to reach the door.

I know this because I was that child.

Housing instability wasn’t a one-time event — it was a cycle.
Infestations weren’t surprises — they were part of daily life.
Chaos wasn’t occasional — it shaped my entire childhood.

And when hoarding and addiction collide, it doesn’t just damage the home.
It changes the child. It changes their brain. It changes their future.

Research Confirms What I Lived Through

Trauma rewires a child’s brain

The CDC-Kaiser ACEs Study shows that kids exposed to household addiction, mental illness, or neglect have:

• 12× higher risk of suicide attempts

• 2–3× higher risk of addiction in adulthood

• Higher PTSD rates than some veterans

Children in hoarded homes often experience 4–6 ACEs at the same time.

Hoarding environments are dangerous for developing bodies

Studies from Boston University and the National Center for Hoarding Disorder show hoarded homes are:

• 3× more likely to have rodent and bug infestations

• High-risk for fires

• Associated with higher asthma, mold exposure, and respiratory issues

I didn’t need the data.
I grew up hearing mice scratching through the walls and seeing roaches run across the floor.

Instability disrupts growth

The American Academy of Pediatrics found that housing instability increases:

• emotional problems by 50%

• developmental delays by 40%

• behavioral challenges by 20%

Children cannot grow where they do not feel safe.

The Part Research Doesn’t Capture

Here’s the reality of being a child in a hoarded, addicted home:

You learn to move quietly.
You learn to hide everything.
You learn to take care of adults who should’ve taken care of you.
You learn to become responsible for problems you did not cause.

Shame becomes your shadow.
Fear becomes your teacher.
Adultification becomes your normal.

Those years shaped parts of me I’m still healing…
and parts of me that became the soul of WithMother LLC.

Why WithMother LLC Exists

Every time I walk into a hoarded home, I don’t see a “mess.”
I see:

• the child living there now

• the child the adult used to be

• the trauma buried under every pile

• the story no one asked about

• the pain the clutter is protecting

I see myself.

This business is not just cleaning.
It’s trauma-informed support, judgment-free care, and a bridge to real healing.

Why We Need Therapists, Social Workers, and Doctors — LOTS of Them

Hoarding is never just about “stuff.”

It is deeply connected to:

• trauma

• grief

• loss

• addiction

• mental health

• anxiety

• depression

• PTSD

• physical illness

• disability

• and generational patterns

That means cleaning alone is not enough.

Some clients will relate better to:

• a Black therapist

• a male therapist

• a female therapist

• a trauma specialist

• a grief counselor

• an addiction specialist

• a family therapist

• a medical doctor

• a social worker

Every hoarder has a different story —
so they need different professionals.

This is why I want a large directory of therapists, social workers, counselors, psychologists, and doctors who understand hoarding and want to help.

I want:

• multiple providers

• diverse backgrounds

• culturally aware care

• gender-diverse professionals

• trauma-informed practitioners

• Black mental-health professionals

• clinicians comfortable working in extreme environments

Because no single provider can reach every client —
and every client deserves someone they can relate to.

If you’re a provider who wants to collaborate, reach out.
Your support can change a home, a family, and a future.

Breaking the Cycle for the Next Child

If you grew up like I did…
If you're raising kids while carrying your own trauma…
If you’re trying to heal your home and your heart at the same time…

You deserve support.
Your children deserve stability.
Your family deserves a safe place to breathe.

WithMother LLC is here to help you begin.

CALL TO ACTION — Start Your Journey with WithMother LLC

Whether you’re a client, a contractor, or a mental-health professional, here’s how to get involved:

🌿 BOOK A CLEAN

Trauma-informed deep cleaning, organizing, haul-aways, and hoarder-safe support.
👉 Visit WmotherLLC.com to schedule.

🌟 LEARN HOW TO WIN A FREE CLEAN

Check out raffles, trial cleans, giveaways, and community events.
👉 See opportunities on the website.

💼 APPLY AS A 1099 CLEANER or TRAINER

Flexible schedule, meaningful work, and competitive pay.
👉 Go to WmotherLLC.com and click “Join Our Team.”

🧠 MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS: PARTNER WITH US

Therapists, social workers, psychologists, and doctors — we need you.
Your expertise helps our clients heal beyond the surface.
👉 Email: WithMother4u@gmail.com
👉 Or inquire through the website.